Women, Success and Leading from the Feminine

Not too long ago, a friend reached out to our community and asked “Who are the women out there who are really successful, and leading from the feminine”? I loved that question. Here was my answer. Loved this post and not surprisingly very relevant for me in this moment (and by moment I mean starting 3 weeks ago). I’m going through a full reorg (Network Care term) and fully reviewing who I am at my core, what my passion and purpose is, how my choices have gotten me to where I am today and how I can change it all. I’ve completely moved through life often making decisions based out of fear and then to pull me through, lead from my masculine. This hasn’t been working for me. You gotta’ do what you gotta do. Party through the pain, Power through it. It is what it is. These aren’t even the good ones. And while we all are Tony Robbins fans, and a lot of his work comes from Soul, it is still often packaged and manufactured from the masculine. While I’m with you on there being a lot of Feminine Empowerment leadership out there, some of it leaves a bad taste in my mouth as well. I also wanted to note, it’s not just Manhattan where this is a problem — it’s a national epidemic, maybe even global, where the core may be rooted in Metropolitan areas where high paying careers are in the most demand. It could be a little softer outside of NYC, but it’s how we all have been taught is the path to success....

Since When Did Brand Strategist = Life Coach?

When my business partner Michelle and I launched our company I AM. creative, almost a year ago, we noticed right away that the needs of our clients and potential clients reached far greater than a brand strategy, mission statement, logo and website. I am not sure if it’s the nature of the mind/body/spirit industry in which we serve, or the fact that a lot of the people we meet with are leaving a stable career to pursue their passion – regardless, the one common thread is that our client base is comprised of what Forbes has called the new feminist movement, they are all entrepreneurs. Let me first give a shout out to the few men we have worked with, but let’s be honest, we are surrounded by lady love. Women ages twenty-something to 60+ have logged one-on-one time with us in pursuit of what has not only been a clear action plan to get their new business off the ground, or announce a new product, but unbeknownst to them, they have also been seeking permission. Permission for what? Permission to be who they long to be, permission to go for their dreams, permission to be seen and heard and supported unconditionally. What comes to mind immediately is one of my all time favorite passages from A Return to Love, by Marianne Williamson Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are...

A Priest, a Rabbi and a Life Coach walk into a bar…. Part I

I was born in 1973. As a child, going to church on Sundays and Holidays was something we just did. My father was more religious then my mom, so we ended up in a Catholic Church rather than the Lutheran one my mom didn’t really connect with. I was baptized, had my First Communion and was Confirmed. Confirmed as what? Honestly, I couldn’t tell you, but my guess it has something to do with coming of age. Fast forward to high school when going to church was more of a thing we did at Christmas, I remember the moment we looked at each other as a family and decided that this just wasn’t something that served us anymore. During the Christmas Eve service, after we received communion, the people of the congregation wheeled out a birthday cake and we sang Happy Birthday to Jesus. The Gordon Family was out. I grew up in a pretty religiously diverse town compared to some. It seemed it was equally Jewish as it was Christian, but I don’t know the true stats on that. Mostly I remember in 7th and 8th grade going to a Bar Mitzvah or Bat Mitzvah every other weekend, getting to wear a new dress each time and playing spin the bottle at the after parties. As an adult I’ve gone to a couple of church weddings and recently went to one in a Temple. (Side note: for purposes here on out in this blog post, what I am talking about does not apply at all to that wedding.) Lots of traditional type mass services, big beautiful white dresses...

My Milkshake Brings….

OK. So, it’s an almond milk shake and its more of a protein shake, and I suppose it eventually can bring boys to my yard. But what I know for sure, the shake I make every morning for breakfast brings me a daily dose of good stuff and regular BM’s. Are you thinking to yourself ‘Did she just say “BM”‘? Yes, I did and yes, I am referring to my poop. If you’ve had the pleasure of knowing me for a long time, you know I am unfiltered and will occasionally discuss the joys of a daily BM and how upsetting it is to me when I don’t have one. I’ve talked to a lot of people about how important it is, especially if you are a meat eater, not eating organic and if your diet consists of mainly processed, packaged foods. Imagine all of that just sitting in your gut, rotting, wreaking havoc on your body. That junk needs to move. I am not going to go into the science of it, I’ll let the lovely people at the Chopra Center give you a brief Ayurvedic lesson on the importance of a properly functioning digestive system http://www.chopra.com/agni. What I do want to share with you is a great recipe that I got years ago from the lovely Debbie Ford. I’ve typed it up so many times and have shared it with many friends, old and new. People always ask for it, so now you can have it too. I am not really into supplements, and I try to eat my suggested daily servings of fruits and veggies, but...

A Battle to the Death? Me vs. My Ego

Here we are again. This time not on the battlefield. I see her laying before me in a hospital bed hooked up to life support, with still so much to say. This past year it’s been a back and forth struggle between what I want, what I think I want, what I used to want and what I think other people want from me. It’s been a year of choices, holding patterns, dreaming and praying that everything is going to turn out as I expected or even better. But here we are, once again caught between these versions of myself that obviously don’t get along, and not farther along on the path to living my ultimate reality, or so it would seem. The split happened quite some time ago and I can’t exactly pin point a date, but the awakening to the Spiritual self has been a beautiful process. While some things have gotten easier, more peaceful, beautiful and graceful, the times when I am not in that grounded place look like a crazy person trying to get out of a straight jacket, which isn’t far from the truth. It’s been so painful at times that I have resigned to seeking old school therapy to help me break down the patterns and the perspectives I am locked in because I just can’t see what doesn’t serve me any longer. Over the last few weeks this has been our conversation. She talks to me in bursts of furry, rage and anger. Between the pumps of air that are pushed into her lungs I hear this: “I feel drained, hopeless, the...

S.O.B. Yoga!

Personal Re-evolution 2 weeks ago I was on day 2 of a 3 day juice cleanse and day 3 of my 6 day “moon cycle”. I have been completely aware that I am still in a major transition and currently pushing through some sort of transformation and it feels like hell. One of my favorite teachers, Dr. Donny Epstein, has cataloged life’s stages of healing into 3 seasons, discover, transform and awaken. We are either in a time where we are learning new things about ourselves or even rediscovering parts of ourselves that we’ve buried, are transforming ourselves from those discoveries or than finally, awakening to the better version of ourselves that we grew into out of those discoveries. Within the seasons are 4 stages each, giving us a set of 12 total to work through. I’ve been round and round this slinky stacked merry-go-round and the journey to higher and higher states of awareness are never ending, although most of the world is paralyzed in fear about what they might find and never leave the first season of discover. Working this system is a great tool for me, especially since there are people who are trained to help you move through the stages. Sometimes I’ll be stuck in a season for months, sometimes only weeks or a day, I even have moved through a season in minutes. But I am definitely in transform… for the most part, and have been here for months. Power Yoga vs. Yoga as community Back to a few weeks ago… I decided to go to a beginner’s yoga class since I wasn’t feeling...

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